Years ago, I read a book by Dr. Gary Smalley that left an impression on me. I could have the specifics wrong because it was years ago, but the core of the concept is that a difficult experience builds stronger bonds, IF it became part of family folklore. By that I mean, afterwards, if the family shared it in a loving way.
Dr. Smalley felt camping was one of the best ways to create a strong family. Not because it could be fun or because lots of time was spent together, but because things could go wrong.
More specifically, Dr. Smalley felt that if you camped enough, things would go wrong. And, usually the problem needed to be resolved by working together.
Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn.
A wise man can learn more from a foolish question than a fool can learn from a wise answer.
1. When there is a problem, not only explain the problem to everyone, see if there is a way to reframe the problem. A different question will yield different solutions.
2. When asking for solutions, listen and maybe embellish some of the solutions. Being a bit silly, or at least removing the fear of ridicule, can allow creative juices to flow.
3. Apply this method to small challenges. The purpose is not only to solve a problem but to expand problem solving skills and create a basis for something to share later.
4. Talk about it later, adding praise, reflection and humour to the situation.
5. Expand any learnings to apply to other situations.
For example (and I’m not saying this really happened), let’s say 20+ years ago, when wearing sunblock wasn’t as quite as common, a dad was too cool to put on sunblock. After spending a day at a waterpark, he inherited the name Lobsterman for obvious reasons.
Afterwards, phrases such as, “Will Lobsterman be joining us today?” might be heard. Lobsterman mentality, the idea that NOT doing something small now would create an unwanted consequence later, had wide-ranging application (homework, doing chores as obvious examples).
Often it is the little things that we do consistently that makes the biggest differences in our lives. I love trying to improve my life. How about you? I’m always attempting to implement a new tweak, and literally failing to maintain it 99.99% of the time. However, that 0.01% of the time that it becomes a part of my mindset, daily schedule or daily being, has had a huge impact over time.
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