I don't know about you but I love summer
... well, most things about summer.
I remember, when my kids were younger, some of the 'fun' things we did also had unfun parts to it:
- Lineups for summer activities.
- Listening when someone is explaining rules to a new game.
- Taking turns when playing some of those games.
All require patience. Not the strength of someone with ADD/ADHD!
Since there are times when we don’t get what we want when we want it, what can we do about it?
Action Ideas for Patience
(Ideas to get ya thinkin’. Not medical advice.)
1. WHEN and/or WHERE
Figure out WHEN and/or WHERE you (or another person if doing this on someone else’s behalf) are most likely to feel impatient. If you can narrow down the ‘when and/or where’, then you can analyze it for clues.
Think back to the last time there was an occurrence of impatience. Why did impatience arise at that time and place? Once you have your answer, ask why again and again, and again, and again. It’s called 5 Whys and is useful in many situations.
~John Quincy Adams
2. What is the common theme?
Make a list of several occurrences of impatience. What is the common theme? Once you have a big-impact answer, then you can brainstorm how to reduce or resolve the issue. Maybe distraction would help.
For example, next time you feel impatient ask yourself:
- What is that thing you didn’t notice a minute ago?
- Four things you can hear?
- Three things you can feel?
- Two things you can smell?
- One thing you can taste?
Are there specific timing issues, such as it happens more regularly at the end of the day, when hungry or dehydrated? Can you change your schedule to reduce the occurrences? What can you do to stay hydrated and nourished?
4. Is it physical?
Are you physically on edge because of inactivity and it’s affecting your patience muscle? What about doing 5 very deep breaths? Or tensing and releasing all your muscles, beginning with your toes? Or doing a shallow squat and holding it – for a long, long time. Try tensing different muscles while in that shallow squat.
5. Is it being overtired?
Or, maybe in some instances, it’s good to be impatient =)
Analyze where you are now, where you want to go. Wanting to get there faster can spark creativity to find a new way to resolve the issue.
Tom Bilyeu, co-creator of Quest Bars believes patience is highly over-rated. He claims that rather than try to eliminate it, direct it to a problem that's worthy of solving. Then solve it as quickly as you can.
All personality traits, characteristics, and skills are useful are certain situations. The trick is being able to control when we want to access those traits, characteristics, and skills.
I hope you are having a wonderful summer ...
and not like me, impatiently waiting for its arrival (for those of you not in Alberta, Canada, we’ve been having a VERY chilly spring and summer).
Providing calmness & comfort, learning & laughter,
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