I used to think of role playing as being somewhat structured and situation specific: A circumstance is determined, then person A and person B improvise possible options.
I’ve re-thought that as through the years I’ve had success with imaginative role-playing. Or perhaps it could be called, ‘prepping for the inevitable’.
The key for me was to give myself new behaviours, words, thoughts and feelings so instead of reacting, I had options.
The biggest risk is not taking any risk... In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.
It seems to be a law of nature, inflexible and inexorable, that those who will not risk cannot win.
~John Paul Jones
Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they're big, flashing signs that something needs to change.
1. Traditional role-playing with two or more people is great for practicing new roles, behaviours, and scripts. It allows the person to test different reactions to the other person, to ‘test drive’ body stances and wording, as well as get informational and supportive feedback.
2. Role-playing alone, possibly in front of a mirror, speaking out loud with congruent body stance and behaviour.
For people who find movement helpful for calming and learning, pacing while first selecting and practicing the wording would be helpful.
3. Imaginative role-playing is just what it sounds like. Play the scene in your mind, focusing on deep breathing, feeling calm and in control, practicing the words and becoming aware of what feelings come up when going through the sequence.
The further down this list we go, the easier it is to ignore or minimize discomfort when practicing. Unfortunately, ignoring the discomfort will reduce success in the real situation.
4. Phrase selection. If the goal is more of a general response to stressful situations rather than a specific situation, a general phrase may be more useful. Phrases such as, “I’m not sure that I understand. Would you explain it again, please?” Or, “I’m not comfortable at the moment. Could we pause for a few seconds?“ In the latter case, a plan of action during the pause also needs to be addressed.
5. Picturing or moving in a way that displays the feeling or body movement of a role model.
Do you want to expand on a feeling? Move similar to, or visualize what it would feel like to move like a powerful lion, a flexible kitten, or a strong favourite comic character. Focus on the feeling. Discussing when that feeling would be useful to display. The photo above goes with this action idea.
6. Introduce the concept of role-playing/imagination-base solutions during regular conversation with prompts like, “Let’s take turns coming up with ways to say, ‘I don’t like broccoli’?”, “Where is the bathroom?”, “You are speaking too loud.”, or “I need to leave for a few minutes.”
7. Imagining stressful situations can cause physical stress. For some, weight provides the input needed to calm the body.
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P.S. Looking how to apply role-playing within the classroom?
Here is a website to help you do that.